People Pleasing Independent?

To be completely honest, I never could imagine myself married...I often felt my free-bird like ways wouldn't keep someone around long enough for marriage thoughts to ever arise. But as some people say, there is someone for everyone; and I truly found that person. He allows me to be myself, trusts me, we don't always agree...but we certainly communicate our opinions...right or wrong.
It's interesting what you find out about yourself when you leave your parents house. I lived with my parents throughout undergrad, going into industry, throughout my MBA and working...up until I got married in August 2009. I never left the nest...for a few reasons..It's difficult for people who didn't come from a close family to truly understand. Every decision or event I attended typically involved my family...which is fine when you're a kid...but as you become an adult, you try to take your own journey into the world...and figure out what your interests are....what you'd like to do on a Friday night after work...etc. It's difficult to take that journey when some of your decisions are criticized...you turned back into your obedient shell...go with the flow...don't want to constantly be questioned on people, places, events...etc. I guess I've always been a people pleaser, and definitely a parent pleaser....It's difficult to get out of that mode...of constantly accomodating and apologizing for things. Since I've gotten married, and was able to define myself independently from that unit...I've grown...but also have become more frustrated. When I don't agree with something a friend or co-worker says or does...we have a dialogue..and either we agree to disagree or compromise...etc. With some people in my family..it's their way or everyone else will have to pay the price with attitude and discomfort. Simply put, it gets old...and I'm ready to wash my hand of always being the one to apologize; it's time for others to take accountability.